Friendship

For the past weeks,
I've been thanking God for those best friends I kept and will continue to keep.

I don't have to mention names becoz they already know who they are.

I just deleted a whole bunch of paragraphs before deciding on posting this one.

I was angry and pissed and wrote a bunch of details which I'm sure no one wants to read.

So, instead,

lets attached a couple of quotes about friendship.

but in the end,

If you have to explain something so meaningful like this to someone,

you have to wonder,

is it worth my time?

If you can't figure it out yourself, others can't really help you.


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argh! let's cue Jojo - FAB song!

Question

Caution
long post.

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you know that guy friend who has a girlfriend-turn-wife yang penjeles ya amat?

When Ahmad (bukan nama sebenar) begirlfriend with Sarah (bukan nama sebenar), Ahmad had been avoiding his other friends. especially yg bini2.
the other female friends was told (by the male friends of their circle of friends) that Sarah was a penjeles girlfriend.
the other female friends understand.

and then, Ahmad and Sarah got married.

So, here's a situation:

Erin posted something on social media and Ahmad liked it.
Erin got scared. Scared that Ahmad's wife Sarah would get a wrong idea.
but nothing happened (Sarah did not go and cyber attack Erin, like Erin thought Sarah would). thus, Erin ignored the like and be neutral about it.

Months had passed and Erin noticed that Ahmad liked her posts every now and then. 
Erin was no longer worrying and become curious instead.

masa becouple, you are not allowed to talk or like or heart any other girls' post on social media
but
selepas kawin, you can resume the talking, liking, hearting other girls' post?



Here's the question:

Why is that?

disclaimer: I am single AF and I'm not trying to be know it all about this kind of thing. I'm just curious.

In my understanding, if I don't want him to talk to other girls when we're dating, I certainly don't want him to talk to other girls when we're married.

Maybe it's a trust issue?
you don't trust him when he's your boyfriend
but
you trust him when he's your husband?
PLEASE UNDERSTAND: the 'He' here is the same person.

In my understanding, if I can't trust him when he's my boyfriend, why on earth did I marry him?!

Let's change POV (point of view)

Maybe he was menjaga hati the girl
Ok, he jaga my hati when he's my boyfriend
but
thought it's ok to not jaga my hati when we're married?
Isn't menjaga hati your wife more important?

I really can't do much POV on guys 


Anyway,

I'm just dead curious about this stuff.

coz from Erin's POV, she is scared that Sarah might get the wrong idea. Ahmad might thought that what he's doing is ok. but who knows what Sarah is feeling, right?

I also understand that maybe Sarah isn't getting a wrong idea coz Ahmad married her and she shouldn't be questioning his loyalty and trust him.

Another opinion of mine; Ahmad shouldn't be like that from the moment he berCouple with Sarah. He shouldn't push away his female friends in the beginning to jaga hati girlfriend but after he kawin with Sarah, resume being friends with his female friends again. it's confusing and troublesome.

but once again, I don't know why Ahmad did what he did. Maybe that's the only way he knows how to deal with it?
I just strongly believe that he could've handled it better.

because the moment Ahmad pushes his other friends (male and female) away, they also distant themselves from him. and when he tries to befriend them again, they don't want to.

can you blame them?
I understand if you push away bad influences from your life to be better
but we're friends. 
IF not the best of friends, I'm sure we're good friends of yours.
I get that you can't talk to us (female) to jaga the hati of your girlfriend but did you realize that you avoided going out with our group (have male also) too?
and now that you're married, you wanted to go back to how it was?
are you serious?

that's not how you're supposed to treat your friends.

I understand that married people have commitment but i have never met anyone, who before they were married, pushes everybody away just to keep 'the other half' happy.

that's all that I've got to say.

I could write a novel about this, believe me.

Yes, Erin is me. it's how I feel about the situation. the curiosity is mine.

Once again, I'm single and maybe I don't understand this "sacrifices".

all I can do right now is be neutral and try not to overthink. 

My positivity   It's definitely not me. it's them.

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Happy Belated Birthday

this special post is dedicated to the pretty Jess

Sorry that it is belated but here you go;

Happy Belated Birthday Jessica.
I know from your post you had a blast!

Here's to many more years to come 

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my Stress reliever

A couple of weeks ago, me and Buzz went to the Consumer Fair at ICC.

the fair was super ...neutral. coz it was the same as the previous (and previous nya lagi punya) year; local vendors selling clothing, shawls, cookies, electronics, FOOD! you know, the usual.

See that Anna sanitizer (click image to enlarge. it was attached on my bag)

I lost it as soon as I left ICC compound. I think I lost it in the bus coz I got stuck for a moment in it.

I was so upset about it.

the one thing different was the FREE photo booth at DST booth. It was the same as the one we had during our BBB annual dinner last Jan.

since me and buzz almost finish shopping (cBuzz shopping, I was mostly eating and drinking and looking around saja hahah), we agreed  to take some photos. It was free anyway.

Look at us. being funny. hahaha

and on our way to catch the bus which will bring us back to where we parked our car, we met Hasrin.

Then in the car, we ate our food.

We contacted Zawir during that time, for a lepaks.
We decided to watch Jurassic Park at Empire Cinema but  when we got there, there was no decent seats available. So, we ended up taking a stroll at the Empire beach ground.

Sekaliiiiiii

Hujan!
so we spent our time waiting for the rain to stop taking pictures.
Here's a couple of them

"Dancing in the rain"

Selepas itu, hujan teduh..and we balik.

so much for a happening night. hahaha

but still. I had a proper smile on my face after a tough week.

My awesome friend brings out the best in me. *cough* cheesy *cough*

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Hi November

Good Morning lovely people. (it's 2:38am now LOL)

I missed Halloween. and dinner.
coz I fell asleep soon after I got back from work. 
Yes, it's been a loooonngggggg week.

a lot happened in a week, believe it or not. 
I finished reading two books, watched Ouija and hung out with ex-colleagues (not particularly in that order, of course).

last friday (24th Oct), I finished reading Twilight by Stephenie Meyer

(finally!) and got so intrigued that I downloaded ebooks for the second, third and fourth of the series. 
and half-way thru New Moon, I realise I was obsessing over this series. you know, macam aku obsess arah Harry Potter. it's the same kinda obsession. LOL 
I finished reading New Moon in two nights (I only read night time since at work I can not really concentrate). 

and I continued on Eclipse which took me longer (well longer after New Moon. took me longer finishing Twilight. rupanya you have to push pass that first book to be able to be obsess with this series LOL); three nights, to finish coz I was tiredddd I took pauses in between but being obsess, I insisted on finishing it. hahaha I feel like I was seventeen all over again. 

I was supposed to start with Breaking Dawn tonight 

buttt since aku tertidur, I start tomorrow - or later. 

all this reading via ebook made me realise how much I forever in love with (physical) books. Sama plang saja, reading words but kalau baca from (physical) books is so much .. more .. feel? thats how I feel saja lah. different people different feels. xD

continuing on,
Last Sunday (26th Oct), there was a lunch outing with the ex-colleagues (except Ami. me and her still colleagues :) ). 

(left to right; Ami, Zaidah, Me, Faizah, Jidah and Jason)

it was awkward at first, but as time progressed, we ended up having a lot of fun. I remember looking around the table and thought, 'I miss this'. We were once so close but I guess not all close friendship will last. I'm just glad we are all (if not really) in good terms with each other. It was a nice catch-up session. ;)

afterwards, me and Faizah (yes, just us two. among the four yang left the company, I remain close in contacts with Faizah) went to the Mall and liat wayang. ceta Ouija. 

I gave it 9/10. LOL generous, I know! 
but since Annabelle (which I gave 8/10, another generous rate hahaha) 

I feel like ong puteh learned how to make good ghost movies again. the last scariest movie I watched was the Sixth Sense. imagine that. I guess my generosity came from being able to actually understand cerita2 ani. selalunya ghost movie durang ani inda membari paham or ended up on a killing spree saja without ending. well, Ouija was like that too but more tolerable and actually really was just a ghost movie. Thumbs up to the maker. Please continue to make good ghost movies in the future.

then Monday came and all I can think about is tiredness. haha mana inda, everynight after, baca buku(ebook) sampai menyubuh. I hope I give the same kind of dedication when I started going back to school next year. LOL #hopeful

all in all, as tiring as it had been, it was a good week and at work (yesterday already now) it ends nicely; we had makan-makan for my Supervisor's birthday and a junior's leaving. Food is always a happy thing for me. xD

Weekend starts already and I should sleep (it's 3am now). I need to wake up early later to go immigration with my sister. 

So, happy weekend everybody. will update soonies. ciao~

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Time

I went out for lunch with a office mate, Mel, couple of weeks ago and one conversation stuck with me and made me want to make this post.

It's about friends, making time, and keeping the friendship.

I don't remember how the conversation come to be but it was when I mentioned about me having lunch with my lovelies; Zawir, Buzz and Kuch. 

I aslo mentioned to her that we've been friends since high school.

and Mel said, 'bisai ah you guys still hang out together. Kalau aku, my friends always so busy and can not make it'. 

I literally paused for a couple of seconds. then I said to her, 'well, we were too but we find time'.

and I remember still thinking about what she just said and what my real thoughts were all through out lunch break.

I mean, you find time. these are your lovely friends and yes you are now busy with your own commitment and what not but when one of us suggested something like having lunch or brunch or whatever, you will find time. you make time. 

I'm a lazy person (yes, being fairly honest) but I would love to just make my time for these lovely people. Unless I really can't then I would just tell them that I can't.

and I was glad. Glad I have the friends that I have now and wouldn't trade them with anything in this world. I'm not just talking about Zawir, Buzz and Kuch. I meant my other (elbeit small) circle of friends; ex-colleague and ex-classmates. I may not be as close to them as I do the other three but they are still friends and I will make time.
besides, it's good to hang out out of your normal circle once in a while. you need it. it's good for the brain. 'broaden your mind! and you can see the future~!' Hermione mimicking Prof. Trelawney in Prisoner of Azkaban. (LOL!).

Point is ladies and gentlemen, it's your choice whether or not you want to keep the friendship. If you make time, you'll keep the friendship and if you don't make time, then, paham paham lah. 

I know we don't all need friends and be just glad to be with our family members. but I guess everybody have their own stories and some of us need that outside influences to get thru life.

Just, make the time.

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a/n: I feel sorry for these people; who don't make time or are not given time.

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21st Sep

I know, I know. took me awhile. 
I was just ...lazy.

LOL

but here I am!

So, final day in KL and we didn't really do much but woke up early, paid the hotel and left for KLIA2 at 9:00am.

the journey was a lot shorter somehow.

when we finally arrived at the airport, first thing we looked for was the restroom. LOL

Pastu baru th kami cari our check-in counter. After we found it (since kami early and belum check-in time yet), we go an find food for breakfast. Yup, inda kami sampat breakfast di hotel ah.

I chose this Irish restaurant, Irish Sandwich Cafe.

Bazilah just tagged along. hehe thanks Buzz for melayan-ing this Irish-at-heart woman. (wawawa)

the club sandwich was tasty (sorry nada picture) but what I loved the most was the Tea. Irish Breakfast Tea it was called. It was a black tea (i think) fused with Toffee (or was it caramel?)! 

super delicious! and seriously I can't get over it even now (nasib ada Tea Box di Brunei ani and they have Irish Milk Tea beverage. So, that can compensate my craving for the O'Briens' Tea).

Continuing on ...

We finished breakfast and I decided to go and searhed for the famous (not really. but I'm always a season behind all the famous things :P) Fipper slippers. After dari sana, I went and stopped by F.O.S. again. LOL sampat lah jua ku last minit shopping. 

then, baru th time to check-in our luggage and we straight away pass immigration into waiting to boarding.

Since the KLIA2 is fairly new, the inside was a little, boring. not much to see. but Brunei's gate had the CurryPuff place right in front of it which we didn't bother to stop by because we kenyang already. We ended up exploring the new boarding place. took some pictures.

a male Orang Putih offered to take picture of me and Buzz. We said 'It's ok' coz lets face it, how often do you meet someone who offered to help? Kami kira kekajutan and said 'it's ok'. it would've been nice if we say 'yeah, sure. thanks' but that didn't happen and we ended up with having individual pictures saja. LOL

the time came and we boarded the plane. we enjoyed the service they provided on this flight better than when we departed from Brunei to KL. we ordered food and enjoyed brownies.

and as often, time fly fast when you're having fun and soon enough we landed in Brunei.

Our brief holiday/vacation ended there.

It was the first time I ever go anywhere by plane with just one companion and it wasn't at all bad or scary. It felt normal. It made me feel or think about my next trip with just my sister (coz we once planned on going either to KL or Singapore just us two but the husband was worried and we ended up going to Miri saja with her husband tagging along. LOL)!

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NEXT? 

Singapore baby! 
in January 2015.
USS! 
and
Panda!
and
more shopping!! LOL
yes, Zawir, shopping!

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13th Raya

this time, closer to my heart Hari Raya visit; at Buzz's and Zawir's.

First, Kuch and Fiance beraya to my house. No picture again.

and then I went with them to Buzz's house.

met Kaka Izzah and Lawi there.

Behind me: Lawi

Behind cBuzz: Kaka Izzah

Guy at the very back: Khairol(?), Kaka Izzah's friend.

We took lovely pictures there with Kuch's new monopod. the sakainess of that moment. LOL

after that we went to Zawir's. Not an open house but ada food macam open house. *happy tummy*

 Kenapa lah muka cFaliq cematu? -.- in real life, ia senyum lawa you know.

its just so hard to capture it in pictures.

as Kuch posted on IG, 'Reunited'.

we got 'angpau' some more kekeke Thanks Zawir

We went to Edy's afterwards but again, nada kami bergambar. too tired. I was like, in a daze sudah at Edy's. too tired. Sleepy berabis. ahaha Sorry to all if I talk nonsense half of the time that day. LOL

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12th Raya

another open house day.

1st House; one of our bosses. and met Elaine there.

 Far left: Elaine

 a picture with the host (hyper bah ku dibelakang. kehabisan pose LOL)

2nd House; Fadzlan's but we didnt take any picture. We suggested it but we didn't in the end. menyasal ada jua rasanya. but ah well..


3rd House; Rahmah's. I didn't take picture here also but so nice of Rahmah always taking candid picture of us and managed to snap a photo when we went to her house.

4th House; my sister's friend's open house at Tutong. We didn't take picture with the host, just a picture of me and Buzz. 

towards the end we were so tired already. hahah nampak kan on our faces?

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11th Raya

I know, jumping dates. 

on the 11th day of Raya, a department in my company was having an Open House.

DELICIOUS FOOD! No, no pictures of the delicious cuisine but here's a picture of me with a couple of my colleagues;

 Left: Rahmah

Right: Mel

and this colorful Kuih Mor

taste like normal kuih Mor plang. some said it was too dry but since I am no expert, i shrugged it off and helped myself with a few more (of every color LOL)

oh. met an old friend of mine there too.

Asimah

After work, we went to one of our bosses open house (told you it was a trend hahaha) and again, I don't have the picture with the host. Najib has them but he is yet to share the pictures.

Najib stood far back

Asrif in brown

Sefwan in red

and

Nazmi in pink(??)

Me and Bazilah went to Azian's (one of our junior collagues) house after that. not an open house, just a normal berHari Raya-ing. No picture for this coz we were too busy with Korean channel (AGAIN!..lol!). Running Man and K-Hits were playing back to back at that time. 

3 houses down. NEXT!

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6th Raya

this had to be my most happening Raya. EVER. 
hahah coz, we went beraya-ing in a specific time frame. Job well done, Az and Buzz. LOL
there were 5 open houses that day. we went to all.

biasa, open House ani kan all about eating (heavy food) and  parut melatop lah lapas tu. If you lose some weight during Fasting month, just say Welcome Back to all them weights/fat!

First house; Kuch's. Met Ruzaimah, Putri, Udi and Zul there. Even Amalia! We spent longer time at Kuch's house because it was in a different district.

Left to Right: Buzz, me, Pu3, Kuch, Amalia and Zaimah.

2nd House; my sister's, (we didnt managed to take picture with the host)

my sister's friend's son, Adam. cute ay?

3rd House; Edy's

Left to Right: Zawir, Edy, baby Maleeq, Be'ah and Buzz

 

4th House; Rasyid's

far right: Rasyid

the guys in blue are Buzz's nephews. bujang2 sudah.

gosh, I am old. -.-

5th House; Hasrin's. we kelurusan datang with Rahmat and Syima. then Alif and gf caught up with us too soon after we arrived.

 standing: Hasrin and Zawir

seating: Rahmat, Aziz (he was already there when we arrived) and Alif.

 Syima in cream and Alif's gf in red.

of course, being at Hasrin's, betamu lagi dengan Rahmat, some mandatory pictures must be taken but I posted the above saja in this blog. 18++ Rated. LOL #sci2favoritecouple

we went to a 6th house but that was not an open house; just simply berHari Raya. it was at Buzz's brother's house whose sons pictured above. spent longer time here because we busy watching Gunman in Joseon, a korean drama. LOL pasal korea, bulih lah terstuck disana atu. we left right before midnight. 

So, 6 houses in one day. sungguh tiring but fun at the same time. A long time ago, we used to do this without the open houses. it has become a trend to only visit people during open houses. 
maybe I should make one too? just a simple/small one? tapi kan, aku ani sungguh lah 'rajin'. so, let's not count on me for a open house at my own. LOL

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