Rainbow

Hi guys,

a quick recap and info: I was rereading my Skin Care Update post and I saw that I said that I'm going to post something on Make-Up "next". I have not forgotten about it, I just, keep putting it on hold, cost the picture preparation for that is overwhelming to me. LOL but I assure you, that post is coming. 

For now, I wanted to share this superstitious I just learned about Rainbow.

My fellow blogger friend posted a double rainbow pictures and I was reminded of that superstitious incident.

I was walking out of my office, halfway meeting a friend, when I saw the rainbow and excitedly pointed at it, gasping, "Rainbow!"

picture dated: 17th June 2019.

and she said to me, in urgency, "Baik ko isap tu jari mu ah!" Direct translation: You must suck on that finger.  (Get your head out of the gutter LOL!)

I looked at her scandalously, "Why?"

but the thing is, I forgot what she answered me with. 

😂😂😂

No, no. I'm not dismissing her beliefs. We both Malays and I have never heard of that before. Or maybe I have but have forgotten about it. 

So, naturally, I'm curious. 
why must I suck on my finger after I pointed at the rainbow? and the way my friend was instructing me to, it was like, I shouldn't have pointed at it in the first place and sucking on the finger is like a counter-measure thing to offset my doings. or something.
so now, I have another question: why can't I point at a rainbow?

🤔🤔🤔

I have my own theory(ies) tho:
1. we shouldn't have pointed at anything in general. You know, coz it's considered rude. 
2. what if we TERpoint arah 'invisible being' and they got offended and we got cursed? I know, this theory is soooooo melayuuuuu~~
3. these words formed in my head after I asked why: "Karang putus jari mu" direct translation: Later, lose your finger. 🤔
4. Leprechaun. Cauldron full of Gold. 🍀🍀💚🧡

hahaha that fourth one is a joke! I don't have any other theories.

I shall asked this friend tomorrow if I see her.

for the time being, what do you think is the reason? Do any of my theory make sense?

share your thoughts in the comment box below.

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Youtube 2.016

So, I was watching some 5-minute-make-up tutorial on youtube last night (not that I'm gonna be using it. I was just 'nosy' xP)

and tau-tau

I came across and watched these videos 

(thats why kena recommended to me today on my home page)

videos about removing ingrown hair on skin (on every part of your body) and removing white-heads/acne prevention on your face, etc.

they're disgusting, I know but somehow VERY satisfying!

and when you read the comments on each video, you'll find that I am not the only one yg feel that way. Some even find peace in watching them!

I've always have white-heads problems on my face and I've been obsessing over doing my own 'facial' every other night. 

*whispers : that's why I seldom post selfie, coz my face full of 'pilat' or scars. hahahah

I need to stop watching these videos coz if I continue, I might not be able to 'beraya' once I do my 'facial'

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Question

Caution
long post.

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you know that guy friend who has a girlfriend-turn-wife yang penjeles ya amat?

When Ahmad (bukan nama sebenar) begirlfriend with Sarah (bukan nama sebenar), Ahmad had been avoiding his other friends. especially yg bini2.
the other female friends was told (by the male friends of their circle of friends) that Sarah was a penjeles girlfriend.
the other female friends understand.

and then, Ahmad and Sarah got married.

So, here's a situation:

Erin posted something on social media and Ahmad liked it.
Erin got scared. Scared that Ahmad's wife Sarah would get a wrong idea.
but nothing happened (Sarah did not go and cyber attack Erin, like Erin thought Sarah would). thus, Erin ignored the like and be neutral about it.

Months had passed and Erin noticed that Ahmad liked her posts every now and then. 
Erin was no longer worrying and become curious instead.

masa becouple, you are not allowed to talk or like or heart any other girls' post on social media
but
selepas kawin, you can resume the talking, liking, hearting other girls' post?



Here's the question:

Why is that?

disclaimer: I am single AF and I'm not trying to be know it all about this kind of thing. I'm just curious.

In my understanding, if I don't want him to talk to other girls when we're dating, I certainly don't want him to talk to other girls when we're married.

Maybe it's a trust issue?
you don't trust him when he's your boyfriend
but
you trust him when he's your husband?
PLEASE UNDERSTAND: the 'He' here is the same person.

In my understanding, if I can't trust him when he's my boyfriend, why on earth did I marry him?!

Let's change POV (point of view)

Maybe he was menjaga hati the girl
Ok, he jaga my hati when he's my boyfriend
but
thought it's ok to not jaga my hati when we're married?
Isn't menjaga hati your wife more important?

I really can't do much POV on guys 


Anyway,

I'm just dead curious about this stuff.

coz from Erin's POV, she is scared that Sarah might get the wrong idea. Ahmad might thought that what he's doing is ok. but who knows what Sarah is feeling, right?

I also understand that maybe Sarah isn't getting a wrong idea coz Ahmad married her and she shouldn't be questioning his loyalty and trust him.

Another opinion of mine; Ahmad shouldn't be like that from the moment he berCouple with Sarah. He shouldn't push away his female friends in the beginning to jaga hati girlfriend but after he kawin with Sarah, resume being friends with his female friends again. it's confusing and troublesome.

but once again, I don't know why Ahmad did what he did. Maybe that's the only way he knows how to deal with it?
I just strongly believe that he could've handled it better.

because the moment Ahmad pushes his other friends (male and female) away, they also distant themselves from him. and when he tries to befriend them again, they don't want to.

can you blame them?
I understand if you push away bad influences from your life to be better
but we're friends. 
IF not the best of friends, I'm sure we're good friends of yours.
I get that you can't talk to us (female) to jaga the hati of your girlfriend but did you realize that you avoided going out with our group (have male also) too?
and now that you're married, you wanted to go back to how it was?
are you serious?

that's not how you're supposed to treat your friends.

I understand that married people have commitment but i have never met anyone, who before they were married, pushes everybody away just to keep 'the other half' happy.

that's all that I've got to say.

I could write a novel about this, believe me.

Yes, Erin is me. it's how I feel about the situation. the curiosity is mine.

Once again, I'm single and maybe I don't understand this "sacrifices".

all I can do right now is be neutral and try not to overthink. 

My positivity   It's definitely not me. it's them.

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