for the living

hi guys.

Selamat Berpuasa to my muslim friends. 

Today is already the 7th day. Time flies so fast.

as tradition dictates, I had my second 1L cup milk tea from Easyway. 

and I'm sure I'm gonna have a couple more before Puasa month is over. Since this cup only available during Puasa. (*˘︶˘*)

another common thing during Puasa is Bertahlil (prayer for the one already passed away) and Menyungkaikan (breaking of fast with other people at your house) functions.
No, I have not been to one yet. There will be one function next week tho.

I should also point out that puasa is the month when the one who left before us will come and visit. (Imagine the movie Coco, but instead of worldly gifts, they left when we sedekah prayer to them and they continue doing that for the whole month of Ramadhan). this thought alone makes me a little more emotional than usual. ⊙︿⊙

You know how when someone passed away and there'd be a lot of people come by their home or to their final resting place to pay respect? I've always wondered; did we come or go there becoz we wanna say goodbye to the deceased or to give support to the one left behind?

My sister's bestfriend's mother passed away on 30th April 2019. and I found out from the bestfriend's sister's IG. of course, I felt sorry for their lost. but also I remember thinking, "Not that I know the mom well, but I should go for the betahlil for these two sisters", you know, for moral support. and i did go to the betahlil that night and I finally understand what Dumbledore meant when he said to Harry, "Do not pity the dead, pity the living".
Because the one left behind still need to continue living. and I understand now, why we need to visit them often for the first 40 days. for moral and emotional support.

with that I conclude, at least for me, I come for the one left behind. Because losing someone is not something you can get over with, you just learn to live with it, and we wanna be there for them, to show them, their life is still worth living for, we wanna help them want to continue living.

I'm not saying we should only be extra supportive during Puasa month, I'm saying, be there for the living. whenever. They appreciate it when we come and pray together with them as a form of support. Our small gesture of kindness counts.

That's it. be kind. 
in any way, shape or form.
for the living. 

. . .

Side Note: as I was putting the labels, I found out, I've used that Dumbledore quote once before. LOL. I need new quote. but that doesn't make that quote any less true. (◕‿-)

Stop. That. Shit.

It's SHINee's comeback soon. and it's their 10th Anniversary too this month.

and everyone is like, "those who stan OT4 can choke".

Really?

can we stop this OT5 thing?

it's an insult

becoz SHINee is FIVE goes without saying.

so stop trying to shove that down everyone's throat.

We don't know how SHINee is feeling. but they gotta work and carry on with their lives.

they probably wanted Jonghyun there too just as we wanted him to

but reality is, he won't be. not physically.

and i hate seeing people editing pictures of OT4 with Jonghyun. it's like saying SHINee is not enough without Jonghyun.

give. it. a. rest.

give. Jonghyun. a. rest.

I'm not saying forget him. No.

I just want people to support wholeheartedly this OT4. showing them our utmost support. like Jonghyun did when he was alive.

I know our hearts gonna skip a beat when we see that MV with just the four of them but that doesn't mean you HAVE to edit Jonghyun in it.
Stop doing that shit.

It's offensive to the living.

I mean, I don't know what SHINee themselves are feeling but I would feel very insulted if people started cropping my dad's picture into our current family photos.

stop. that. shit.

I screenshot this after his album release last Jan and I was so pissed.

MV uploaded on 22nd Jan and screenshot this on Jan 25th.

so so so pissed.

where were you guys?

where was I?


I shouldn't be posting this kind of content anymore especially when its about supporting OT4.
but it pisses me off when people continue to edit in / cropping in Jonghyun in the new photos.

if you really do stand OT5, you don't need to do edits. you would have seen him in each of his bandmates. you would have seen him without the help of an edited photo.

stop. that. shit.

. . .

I understand that people grieve differently and I only apologize for how offended I was when I see those edited photos/drawings.